How I met your Tatay

So this photo from my graduation popped up in my FB memories, kaya naman throwback muna.
Akalain mo yun, I met Jong 2011 when I was still a struggling college student – and him, well he was already working for X years.

When I was in college, I was singing as a side gig – I started roughly around 2010 but it became more like a 6 days-a-week kind of gig around 2011.
And that’s how I met Jong. I honestly thought he was also a college student (wow, baby face!) out on a weeknight spending his parents’ money instead of being home studying. Haha. Kaya naman irita ako sakanya. Akala ko “eto nanaman, may conyo nanaman na feeler na papansin na magyayabang para maimpress ako” lols. (Ganda ka ghorl?)

Little did I know that we’d spent the next months and even years together – of course, mostly via phone patch lang (strict ang parents ko ?). I still remember the days where I’d have gigs until 3 AM and he’d have to stay up with me (salamat sa unlicalls) to ensure that I wouldn’t fall asleep while studying for a major exam scheduled the same morning.
Kaya naman nun grumaduate ako, mas feeling graduate siya.

As I was only 18 then, wala pa ako nung matatawag kong major heartbreak. I have just broken up with my ex then, but it wasn’t anything serious. I think most of my failed relationships (wow, kala mo ang dami!) the effect on me was more of an ego-damage than a heartbreak. Sabi ko nga kay Jong, wala naman akong inayakan na ex na tipong dahil mahal na mahal ko di ko kayang mawala level, mostly dahil nainis lang ako. Ang motto ko talaga nun ay kung hindi sya, for sure may someone better. Huwow. Hahaha. Pero seriously, that time I don’t think I have experienced loving so hard yet. Mas madami akong iniisip nun kesa sa buhay pagibig.

Narealise ko nga na ang unang heartbreak ko talaga was when I lost my Tito Ariel – but that’s another story. So yes, when I met Jong I haven’t been in a very serious relationship nor any long term relationship and I was not looking for one just yet. And si Jong that time, well he was living the life of a bachelor. Work sa umaga para may pang gimik sa gabi.

I guess that time what I was looking for was someone who could just make me feel special, yung papakiligin lang ako ganern, yung pwede kong makatext anytime (i.e pag bored ako ?) In short, nothing serious. So when our friendship got deeper, I think both of us weren’t expecting anything. Don’t get me wrong though, we weren’t dating around or anything but we weren’t also at the level wherein we were already naming our future kids or planning our future wedding. In plain words, we were just enjoying the company of each other then, trying to get to know each other better every time.

And as I’m writing this, I’ve realised that that’s just exactly what we’ve done – and I guess what we’re still doing for all the changing seasons in our lives. As seasons changed, we’ve also changed as individuals and to be honest there were times when a season would almost get the better of us, seasons where we felt like we no longer enjoy or even want each other’s company or where we felt that we no longer like the person this new season has created. I am not sure how we survived all that – perhaps with heaps of patience and understanding, but definitely all through God’s grace that we are still here together.

It’s funny how God has orchestrated everything considering that a serious relationship wasn’t something both of us were looking for then. Funny how we would sometimes meet a stranger, who’d then end up as one of the most important and influential people in our lives. Might be just a random coincidence for us, but pretty sure that God has lined it all up years before. And when it is something that God has set up, believe me, no matter how much you avoid it, it will happen.

So if you are experiencing any heartbreaks right now or if you feel like it’s taking forever for you to meet the one, take heart, for every single heartache and every single day that passes by brings you closer to the one that God has meant for you. And if you are not looking for the one right now or is at that stage where you are trying with all your might to avoid it, remember that God’s plan is always bigger and better than ours, so if it does so happen, let go and let God.

Oh diba ang haba na. Osya, until my next chika. Ciao.